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Review: It’s Not Me, It’s You by Mhairi McFarlane

on December 22, 2017

It’s Not Me, It’s You
Mhairi McFarlane
Harper Collins
2014, 544p
Purchased personal copy

Blurb {from the publisher/}:

Delia Moss isn’t quite sure where she went wrong.

When she proposed and discovered her boyfriend was sleeping with someone else – she thought it was her fault.

When she realised life would never be the same again – she thought it was her fault.

And when he wanted her back like nothing had changed – Delia started to wonder if perhaps she was not to blame…

From Newcastle to London and back again, with dodgy jobs, eccentric bosses and annoyingly handsome journalists thrown in, Delia must find out where her old self went – and if she can ever get her back.

After listening to You Don’t Have To Say You Love Me by Sarra Manning recently I wanted to find another audiobook for school pick ups and after a bit of browsing and “people who liked that also liked this” I decided to go with this book. I listened to it for an hour one afternoon before I decided yeah, I’m pretty sure I have a copy of this on my iPad in a 3-in-1 bundle that I bought after reading (and loving) Who’s That Girl? by Mhairi McFarlane. As much as I’m enjoying this audiobook, I wanted to consume it faster. So I switched to reading it and got it finished that night!

After 10 years with her boyfriend Paul, Delia decides to throw caution to the wind and propose to him. Paul’s reaction is not what she expects and although he does say yes, it’s not with the enthusiasm that one might anticipate when proposing. Shortly after Delia finds out that Paul has actually been sleeping with someone else and her entire life turns upside down. At her best friend’s urging, Delia goes to stay with her in London to give herself some time to think about what she wants to do. Paul swears it’s over with the other woman, that they’ll get married and everything will be fine….but for Delia, it isn’t that easy.

I knew I was going to love this when it had me laughing out loud in public within the first 10 minutes of starting to listen to it. Delia is down to earth and funny – her boss has given her a job to find out who has been trolling her place of employment (the local council) on social media and Delia knows that it’s going to take an unorthodox approach given that anyone can hide their true identity online. It plays out in an amusing and unexpected sort of way, continuing even after Delia moves to London.

Delia is 33 and has spent the past 10 years with the one person in a relationship that she felt would be her last, that would take her into old age. It’s a cold shock to be potentially starting over again almost in her mid-30s, especially as she wants to have children. With all the talk of declining fertility, not only is Delia heartbroken about Paul’s betrayal but she’s thinking of her future and how difficult it might be for her to accomplish the things she thought that would be a given, such as having a family. She’s spent such a large portion of her life with Paul without ever marrying or getting to that family stage and when she pushes a little to take that next step, she discovers that Paul has not been exactly true. It sets off a lot of questions in her mind as well, especially when she finds out that other people knew about it. Has it happened before? And if not, if it was just a once off, could she possibly forgive him and go back to her old life? I appreciated how much time the author devoted to Delia’s confused thoughts and her struggle about what to do. 10 years is such a long time and it’s hard to decide whether or not to make that fully clean break. I know what would do but at the same time, I don’t think it’s a choice I’d make lightly, given the history. It wouldn’t be easy and the story definitely takes the time to reflect that.

Complicating Delia’s thoughts of what to do is a good-looking journalist in London who attempts to blackmail her and might possibly cost her her new job. But at the same time, he puts thoughts into her head and what if he’s right? Although I didn’t love Adam the first time he appeared, the way that this played out brought so many laughs….and so many tense moments! The ending of this book was really very stressful…..because I was reading it digitally I only had a rough idea of how much I had to go (which was slightly inaccurate as it’s a 3-in-1 with some extras at the end) and I couldn’t tell if I was going to get the ending I really wanted or if it was going to go another way. I spent a lot of the last few chapters with my heart in my mouth frantically scanning and hoping there would be another turn. This book contains once of the most amazing romantic letters I’ve read and it’s all just so perfect. The comics were a really nice touch…..especially the last one.


Book #204 of 2017


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